The many homes we lived in

As we grow older, our understanding of "home" evolves in unexpected ways. What once seemed simple becomes a journey of self-discovery and introspection.

I used to think "home" was just a place—a location, a house. Most of the time, it's where my family is. However, as we move from house to house, any place can become a home when I see my parents and my brother inside.

Then, I realized that "home" is the people I'm comfortable with—it can be my family members, close friends, or even just the people I'm familiar with, like my colleagues at work. It's the people I can be myself with.

But at some point in our lives, we'll be alone—when our family members aren't home, when our friends are busy with their own lives, and when the people we're familiar with don't know us well enough to care about us.

What do we do then?

We deal with our loneliness. And for me, it made me realize that the most important place to call home is myself. If I can be comfortable with myself, I can be comfortable anywhere.

I am my own home

I've come to appreciate quiet moments alone. Whether it's taking a solitary walk in nature, curling up with a good book, or simply staying up late, I've found that these instances of solitude can be deeply nourishing. They allow me to reconnect with my inner self and listen to my own thoughts and feelings without the noise of external influences.

But perhaps the most crucial aspect of making myself a home has been developing self-compassion. I've learned to treat myself with the same kindness and understanding that I would offer a dear friend. This means being gentle with my shortcomings, celebrating my successes, and providing comfort during difficult times.

You are your own home

Making oneself a home is not a destination but a continuous process. There are still days when I feel lost or disconnected, but I now have the tools to find my way back to myself.

I've realized that "home" is not just a place of comfort but also a place of growth and self-discovery.

I'm no longer seeking in "them" what I can provide for myself. It gives me the courage to explore new places and experiences, knowing that I always have a safe harbour within.

In the end, while the concept of home will always be tied to people and places I love, I've found that the most enduring and reliable home is the one I've built within myself. It's a home that I can always return to, no matter where life takes me.

I hope you find this insightful. Remember:

It's not going to be easy,
But it's not impossible.

Your friend,
Brian.